ENSPIRA Earns Certification as LGBT Business Enterprise® from National LGBT Chamber of Commerce

LOS ANGELES, June 23, 2021 /PRNewswire/ — Enspira, an innovative human resources (HR) consultancy and technology firm, today announced receiving certification as a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender (LGBT) Business Enterprise® (Certified LGBTBE®) through the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) Supplier Diversity Initiative. The NGLCC is the business voice of the LGBT community and serves as the nation’s exclusive certifying body for LGBT-owned and operated businesses.

As a member of the LGBTQ community and Founder and CEO of Enspira, I am proud of this LGBTBE certification. It underscores our commitment to DEIB and our efforts towards making lasting change,” said Kurt LandonClick to Tweet
Kurt Landon, Founder & CEO, Enspira (PRNewsfoto/Enspira)
Kurt Landon, Founder & CEO, Enspira (PRNewsfoto/Enspira)
Enspira is a Certified LGBTBE®
Enspira is a Certified LGBTBE®

“As a member of the LGBTQ community and Founder and CEO of Enspira, I am proud to see our firm become a Certified LGBTBE through the NGLCC, the largest LGBT economic advocacy and business development organization in the world,” saidKurt Landon. “I have spent much of my career advocating for marginalized communities, and at Enspira, we are committed to making lasting change and work every day with our clients to instill diversity, equity, inclusion and belonging (DEIB) in all aspects of the workplace. Whether providing guidance on DEIB or assisting organizations with their talent and culture needs, as a certified LGBTBE, Enspira is here to help.”

Companies and organizations can engage Enspira for DEIB and other custom HR solutions. With the LGBTBE certification, Enspira can also be the consultancy of choice to help them meet their growing supplier diversity goals and requirements. Over one-third of Fortune 500 companies recognize this certification and partner with NGLCC to create fully LGBT-inclusive supply chains. Enspira brings deep expertise and commitment to DEIB and can serve for-profit and nonprofit organizations of all sizes and industries.

“We are so pleased to welcome Enspira to the ever-expanding network of NGLCC Certified LGBT Business Enterprises and the hundreds of corporations and government agencies eager to put them to work,” said NGLCC Co-Founder and President Justin Nelson and Co-Founder and CEO Chance Mitchell. “According to NGLCC’s groundbreaking America’s LGBT Economy report, America’s estimated 1.4 million LGBT business owners, many of them NGLCC certified, add over $1.7 trillion to the GDP and create tens of thousands of new jobs. We are proud to count Enspira among those who prove every day that LGBT businesses are the future of the American economy.”

The National LGBT Chamber of Commerce is the business voice of the LGBT community and the largest global not-for-profit advocacy organization specifically dedicated to expanding economic opportunities and advancements for LGBT people. NGLCC is the exclusive certification body for LGBT-owned businesses. www.nglcc.org

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About Enspira:
Enspira started with the simple philosophy in mind: deliver fit-for-purpose, client-focused HR solutions that help people be inspired, grow and thrive, so their organization does too. Founded in 2018 by Kurt Landon, Enspira is an innovative and LGBTQ-owned HR consultancy and technology firm headquartered in Southern California, helping clients with their people needs and consistently delivering the most practical and pragmatic ways to implement them within their organizations. Through the combination of its Startup Studio and Innovation Lab, Consulting Services and Technology Solutions business units, Enspira’s winning team of HR experts collectively bring hundreds of years of diverse, cross-industry and global experience. Learn more at enspirahr.com and follow @enspirahr.

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CONTACT: Diana Campau, Enspira Media Relations, Phone:805-340-4264, Email: [email protected]

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Tyler DeSouza: Fashion Pioneer for the Transgender and Cross-Dressing Community

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Tyler DeSouza, CEO of enFemme.

Tyler is an out sexually fluid entrepreneur who grew up with his mother being a stylist for crossdressers. The business started in their living room over 25 years ago when his mother started helping predominately heterosexual Men fulfill their desire to dress as a female.

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Being a bit of a high fashionista herself she helped the men pull together outfits and accessories that suited them. A few years ago mom retired. Tyler not only remained in the business he has transformed it into a fashion house and rebranded it as enFemme. In the cross-dressing and trans community when one dresses as a female it is commonly called enFemme so the name is a strong connection with its customers. enFemme caters to the unique needs of the cross-dressing and male to female transgender community to be a leader in clothing designed to fit a biologically male body dimensions while feminizing in appearance. Further enFemme has designed the industry’s widest line of body-shaping undergarments that conceal the male private parts comfortably and provide breast augmentation.

Tyler relies heavily on customer feedback to develop and hone his product lineup. EnFemme’s customers are an integral part of the full process. Valuing the community, enFemme has an extensive online resource center where site visitors can read stories on inspiration and encouragement through learning from others who share their perspectives and experiences.

Tyler is very passionate about his business and his customers. He feels great satisfaction that he and his company has a role in helping people feel confident in being their authentic self. For many it is who they identify as while for others it is fulfilling a fantasy. All are welcomed and appreciated at enFemme.

We were wanting to provide images of the enFemme products within the video but experienced a video editing bug. So visit enFemme’s website to view their full range of offerings at https://enfemmestyle.com/

To connect with Tyler find him on OutBüro here. https://outburo.com/profile/tydesouza/

Join me and Tyler on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

Would you like to be featured like this? Contact the host Dennis Velco. https://outburo.com/profile/dennisvelco/

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Wendy Weiss: The Queen of Cold Calling

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Wendy Weiss: The Queen of Cold Calling.

Wendy started her career as a ballerina dancer. She moved to New York City to pursue that dream. Like most, she had to work a day job to make ends meet. After getting tired of waiting tables she started a job with a telemarketing firm where she received training and mentoring. She found that she enjoyed the job and was quite good. After some time she ventured on her own founding her own direct telemarketing company. Working with many companies in diverse industries she and her team honed their approach and found commonalities that could be leveraged.

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This insight sparked the idea to take her company further launching a sales training division which is the bulk of her business today, Cold Calling Results, a sales training consultancy. In sales training, Wendy works predominantly with small and midsized companies to hone how they effectively communicate their value proposition to prospective clients typically over a 6-month in-depth hands-on approach. So often sales agents and business owners torpedo their own efforts unknowingly by not positioning their product or service effectively. Wendy provides several examples in our conversation.

Every entrepreneur has to have sales. It is the lifeblood of the company. No one is a born sales guru. Like everything, being great in sales is a skill you can learn. Wendy believes it is crucial to have a sales foundation before hiring a sales representative so that the basic expectations, tools, methods, and processes are present to get the most from every lead. All too often salespeople will blame other things for the reason they aren’t closing business when in fact the reason is a lack of clear effective communication from the sales rep to the prospect. Wendy’s training addresses this in a holistic manner. Get the most out of your sales team.

Not quite ready for one-on-one training? Wendy has written the following books:
The Business Owners Guide to Setting More Appointments When Your Prospects are Completly Freaking Out

The Sales Winner’s Handbook: Essential Scripts and Strategies to Skyrocket Sales Performance
Word-for-word scripts you need to reach highly-qualified prospects, book more appointments, follow-up, and close more sales with less stress.
Use this OutBüro link for your discount: https://wendyweiss.isrefer.com/go/SWHPDF/OutBuro/

Get your free copy of “The Cold Calling Survival Guide – Start Setting Appointments in the Next 24 Hours” by signing up to receive sales tips from Wendy at https://coldcallingresults.com/

12 Steps for Finding Sales Opportunities Today
Free download here: https://wendyweiss.isrefer.com/go/owners-guide/OutBuro/

Reading is great, but you may find that you will benefit from coaching. Wendy and her team can work with you and your unique business to perfect your sales skills. Check out her site to explore the options she provides for sales coaching and support. https://coldcallingresults.com/

Connect with Wendy on OutBüro here. https://outburo.com/profile/wendy/

Join me and Wendy on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

Would you like to be featured like this? Contact the host Dennis Velco. https://outburo.com/profile/dennisvelco/

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Jeff Hammerberg: Locate an LGBTQ Realtor on GayRealEstate.com

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with entrepreneur Jeff Hammerberg. Jeff is the founder of www.GayRealEstate.com. https://www.gayrealestate.com/

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To connect with Jeff find him on OutBüro here. https://outburo.com/profile/gayrealtor/

Jeff started out serving in the US Navy for 4 years in the San Diego, California area. After his military service, he relocated to Denver, Colorado to begin a career in commercial real estate. After several years in commercial real estate, Jeff made the jump to residential real estate starting off with ReMax.

In mid-1993 Jeff was struck how after a couple walked in seeking help in buying a new home was the but of homophobic jokes, after they left the office for being a gay male couple, Jeff felt there had to be a way to better serve the LGBTQ community with respect and trust. In the early day, pre-internet, Jeff work tirelessly to build a “Rolodex” of LGBTQ (and community allies) Real Estate agents. He placed ads in LGBTQ publications to attract both real estate agents and persons seeking to buy or sell their homes. Jeff would connect the sellers/buyers with realtors from his ever-growing list.

Once the internet came along Jeff immediately jumped on the opportunity and had a few versions along the way to build what is now GayRealEstate.com where LGBTQ realtors may register for free and home buyers/sellers may seek out those LGBTQ and friendly realtors 24/7 365 days a year. Due to many reasons, Jeff actually has around 200% more realtors in his database than are listed on the site as he explains in our conversation. So, if you don’t find an LGBTQ realtor on the site, please send a message via the site’s contact form. A super-duper feature is the realtor ratings. Customers are encouraged to leave ratings after their home sale or purchase which helps the realtor as well as you make an informed decision on who to contract with. Using GayRealEstate.com is completely free for home buyers and home sellers to use. GayRealEstate.com is the leading source of real estate and gayborhood information specific to the LGBTQ community.

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This is an essential service for the LGBTQ community. Jeff, via GayRealEstate.com, supports 21 US national LGBTQ non-profits on a monthly basis and additionally sponsors events by those organizations too. When you use GayRealEtate.com you are therefore also supporting those organizations. It is good to know that a portion of the commission money your home sale or home purchase provides goes to support excellent LGBTQ community non-profits.

Jeff also has a great podcast titled “The Dominating Edge: The Law of Attraction” Search for it on your favorite podcast app. It is on Spotify here. https://open.spotify.com/show/4DuuXfh3SDHctUMPfUeEYZJ

oin me and Jeff on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

Would you like to be featured like this? Contact the host Dennis Velco. https://outburo.com/profile/dennisvelco/

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Stan Kimer: VP of Training for National Diversity Council & Consultant

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Out gay professional and entrepreneur Stan Kimer. Stan shares how he not only held several professional roles within IBM over his 31-year career there but how he moved between several departments such as operations, sales, product development, marketing, and Human Resources (Diversity & Inclusion).

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He has always thrived while constantly learning and challenging himself. When assigned to a cross-departmental project he would take it upon himself to learn as much as possible about the functions and strategies of the other departments in a truly collaborative manner. He not only learned by doing this he also built great relationships which often lead those other departments offering him an opportunity to join their department. What a great way to learn new skills create a new career path all while remaining in the same company. This approach could be used in large organizations to keep your career fresh and do what you enjoy.

Stan came out as a gay man at work in 1991 when IBM began to offer domestic partner benefits. At that time Stan was the most senior IBM employee to be openly out as a gay person at IBM. Due to that, he was invited to participate in executive-level meetings regarding diversity and inclusion. In the Stan-way, this involvement led him to join the IBM global Diversity and Inclusion department. IBM was also an early adopter of providing employees who identify as transgender health coverage to meet their unique health needs which started in 2002. The IBM D&I role ignited Stans’s passion. Ever since it has been his focus. After retiring from IBM, Stan was far from sitting back sipping margaritas. He took a year of reflection and planning then launched his own diversity and inclusion consulting business to help other companies and organizations be their best. Additionally, Stan is the VP of Training for the US National Diversity Council. In that role, he is responsible for training delivery as well as training material development.

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As if all that post “retired” work was enough at age 59 Stan started to learn to figure skate. In Stan-style he competes in the adult figure skating competition circuit and knows many Olympic figure skaters. Stan believes life just keeps getting better.

To connect with Stan find him on OutBüro here. https://outburo.com/profile/stankimer/

Check Stan’s figure asking video out here. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDxiFUWhZl9G2Vr-vvoF_Q

Join me and Stan on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

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Tom Christ: Helping the LGBTQ Community be Secure and Safe

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Tom Christ, an out gay entrepreneur in the home, business, and personal security space.

He has represented ADT as an Authorized Provider for many years. He and his life/business partner have also been active large event marketers and leverage lessons learned there to bring innovative marketing to the home security industry. He is a leader in the space for the LGBTQ community. In our conversation, we discussed how many current features of ADT service can benefit LGBTQ community members. We also chatted about a side hustle opportunity (US only, US-wide) where you can register as a referral partner and earn money for yourself or an organization like a community non-profit.

Connect with Tom on OutBüro. https://www.outburo.com/profile/tomchrist/

Join Tom on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

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Franchise Connect Pro: Helping LGBTQ Entrepreneurs Start a Business

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Franchise Connect Pro owners Craig and Sue Derene are LGBTQ community allies helping LGBTQ entrepreneurs considering franchises as a business opportunity.

Franchises are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer community welcoming. They want diversity in the owners. Craig and Sue explained that as franchise consultants, they are very much like a home real estate agent. There are over 4000 franchise companies to choose from. To consider all as an individual would be near impossible. They work through a proven model of getting to know about your desire, likes, goals, and funding. In addition, there are many other things to consider. Franchise Connect Pro and the network they are affiliated with have taken over 4000 down to around 500 fully vetted they are confident in representing.

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That is still a large number and has great options in all industries. An interesting fact is that on average 70% of business owners end up finalizing in a different industry then what they started out thinking they were interested through the guidance of Franchise Connect Pro.

A Franchise is an award process meaning the franchise must agree too. They must see the applicant as a good fit for their business. Both parties must want to move forward. Similar to the realtor, the cost of working with Franchise Connect Pro is paid by the franchising company. For you the business owner, it is free. However, just like a good realtor Craig and Sue know the qualifying questions to ask early on to know their time and expertise is being spent wisely. Just like a realtor isn’t going to waste their time or yours showing $3,000,000 homes when you are financially approved for $300,000.

Working with a franchise consultant like Franchise Connect Pro helps everyone. As the prospective business owner, you are well prepared, have had more options than you could have sorted through on your own, and is packaged for the right franchise option to enhance your chance of getting it awarded to you. For the Franchise company, they know you have been vetted and likely going to be a good match. It saves them time and effort.

Craig a very active member of OutBüro contributing often. Connect with Craig here https://www.outburo.com/profile/craig_derene/

Join Craig, Sue, and Dennison OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

Would you like to be featured like this? Contact the host Dennis Velco. https://www.outburo.com/profile/dennisvelco/

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Victoria Villasenor: Lesbian Entrepreneur, Author, and Editor

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Victoria Villasenor.

Be prepared to laugh and perhaps tear up a little too. Victoria Villasenor is an out lesbian entrepreneur, award-winning author, editor, author’s coach, community service leader, and simply a wonderful soul. We had such a great conversation.

As she states, “Do well, to do good. I love words. I love molding them, playing with them, learning about them. I love helping other people use them. I love to read and I’m a fan of pretty much every genre out there. Through my work with Global Wordsmiths and Global Words Press, I get to spend all my time doing things with words, which makes me a very happy editor.”

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Global Wordsmiths is a community interest company, meaning a big part of what they do is community-based. This is important to Victoria and evident in our chat. There are so many people who feel unheard and unseen, and finding ways to give them a platform to be heard is seen is vital. To date, they have done fourteen books with organizations like Nottingham Hospice, AGE UK, Trans4me, and the Southwell Workhouse all in where the youth or elderly re dived validation, guidance, and support in sharing their stories. Victoria has an MA in English composition and literature. She has written and published six novels under a pen name, as well as lots of short stories. She teaches workshops for various organizations and lead writing retreats in other countries.

  • 01:15 Brief introduction and overview of Global Wordsmith’s a book editing and author advising company. They also run a community non-profit side that works with community organizations.
  • 05:00 Victoria discusses why authors seek their help and their process 06:00 Victoria is also an award-winning author herself
  • 07:00 We chat about, talkers, ideas, and dreamers versus action and doing.
  • 09:20 Part of taking action is surrounding yourself with others who have common interests, goals, who you can learn from, with and support one another
  • 9:50 Some think, “I can read, so I can write”, but that’s not true. It is a craft and skill that must be developed and honed.
  • 12:00 Working with a professional editor helps hone your product to be the best it can be when released into the world
  • 13:00 Know your audience
  • 20:00 The process Victoria discusses the process of working with authors and the depth of services they seek
  • 25:00 Victoria’s community side works with kids working storytelling to help them connect with their school curriculum
  • 29:00 One community project was working with transgender youth helping them share their story, connect and communicate
  • 31:00 Other community projects have been working with the elderly in group homes to help them connect, share and come together to bond and diminish the feeling of isolation
  • 35:30 Victoria met her wife through the community work. Their shared passion turned into relationship passion.
  • 36:00 Their work touch and changes lives
  • 38:00 Your story matters, you matter, and you are not alone

Connect with Victoria on OutBüro at: https://www.outburo.com/profile/victoriavillasenor/

Join Victoria on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, a.lies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

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Pay for Performance Digital Marketing Business Innovation – Louis Walters

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Louis Waters is an LGBT entrepreneur.

His innovative approach is very different than most in that the bulk of his professional service fees are not the typical hourly or project-based. Rather he partners with his clients to share the risk and reward. On a client, by client basis, he structures a relationship where he earns a percentage of his client’s new growth. In this way, if his marketing is not successful his client owes nothing. If it is successful, he earns a percent of the new revenue. It is an innovative approach. Most marketing agencies pitch ideas and the client then pays for the implementation of those and hope it works. In this model, Louis’s firm is highly engaged and equally sharing the fisk and reward. His approach is not for all clients. He likes to have clients with little or very underperforming marketing and a fairly straight forward business model. He also keeps an eye on trends for emerging fields to work with businesses who are early adopters to ride a wave together. He has had to turn away prospective customers who were not a good fit. In some cases, he has offered business advice on how those prospects might adapt their business to be a better fit. Some direct cost fees get invoiced so that Louis is not financially losing any money.

Louis Walters’ profile on OutBüro > https://www.outburo.com/profile/louiswalters/

Conversation Time stamps

  • 1:00 Louis Walters’ brief Introduction
  • 2:00 Target Client Small to Medium Businesses
  • 3:00 Partnering with Clients pay for success in a shared return on investment (ROI) manner – Skin in the game, share in the potential up-side, putting money where their mouth is – earn a percentage based on the success of marketing campaign, cut of increase in profit margin
  • 7:30 Legal client example
  • 8:00 Does not bill/charge client if traction/results are not realized, they revisit, improve and retool
  • 8:30 Builds trust and mutual learning teamwork. Clients then still engage for work that is paid such as brochures.
  • 9:30 Unique agreements per client with the ability to earn more with fewer clients.
  • 11:00 Choosing clients wisely with the potential to grow and room for improvement
  • 12:00 For prospective clients that aren’t a good fit Loius provides advice to improve to be a future fit
  • 12:30 Louis seeks a business that has a market potential to take-off based on many factors
  • 20:00 This could be a business game-changer if you have financial difficulty right now, this may not be the best model unless you cover your bare base and do a blended approach of partial billing and partial upturn profit-sharing
  • 23:00 Small clients are ideal sue to dealing with the owner. Keep things simple, straight forward, and measurable with short spurts of 2-4 weeks to assess, measure, improve, repeat.
  • 28:00 Not click tracking. Revenue tracking.
  • 29:00 Train client staff – partner, educate, empower, and all thrive while building trust.
  • 36:20 Don’t allow a client to abuse your time. Ensure the client understands your time has value and has a billing rate. Don’t waste it or bill.

Could Your Business Try Pay for Performance?

In today’s world crisis how you adapt can define new opportunities or potentially going out of business. If you offer professional services, would you consider a pay for performance? FOR Louis this approach has meant he has been able to cherry-pick clients to work with, have fewer clients while earning above average for his work. He is focused on quality that drives results.

To connect with Louis find him on OutBüro here. https://www.outburo.com/profile/louiswalters/

Join me and Louis on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices. https://www.OutBuro.com

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Overcoming Addiction, Depression, or Anxiety with David Clive Price

David Clive Price is an out LGBT entrepreneur mental well-being life coach, author and so much more. David has traveled the globe and lived in several countries which has given him a keen perspective on multiculturalism and leadership styles within different cultural contexts.

David like so many, particularly persons in the LGBT community, struggled with coming to terms with family and society messaging of norms versus his authentic self. Despite outward signs of success, he like many struggled with internally owning his own narrative and views which lead to depression and anxiety. Over time David learned to reframe the past messages or programs that led to the substance abuse overcome. Through his books and personal mental wellbeing, David has transformed his life into supporting others on their own journey of working through addictions, depression, anxiety, and other issues that hold you back from living a full, thriving authentic and healthy life.

David on OutBüro > https://www.outburo.com/profile/dcp1997/

  • 01:15 Introducing David Clive Price
  • 3:00 Discussion of book Bamboo Strong
  • 9:00 Acknowledging the Past to Move Forward
  • 18:00 Phases of life
  • 23:00 You cannot change the past yet you can choose how you react and respond. You control yourself.
  • 26:00 You cannot change others, you may, however, set boundaries and enforce them 30:00 Habits create triggers and emotions have brain chemical associations that you become addicted to. Even the feeling of anger, victimization, and all other have a chemical reaction in the brain that you become addicted to. You can learn to reduce and eliminate those addictions and replace them with healthy habits and feelings.
  • 36:00 Having a wellness life coach can help you in your process
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Hidden Demons

David is well known for his clarity of analysis and approach, drawing on his experience and passion for people and cultures all over the world. He brings a strong comparative mindset to the challenges of his clients, enabling them to overcome their doubts and fears and to discover their true inner selves. Combining ancient healing practices such as the Korean art of nunchi (gauging other people’s feelings) with a holistic approach to self-leadership, David developed the Hidden Demons Method™: Discover Your Superpower. With this method he helps clients look within themselves and discover their true inner voice, overcoming their Hidden Demons of anxiety, addiction, and fear of failure. He then sets them on a course to higher performance, fulfillment, and authenticity. This superpower framework has been adopted by individuals, teams, and institutions all over the world and can be applied in any business or start-up. David is a living example of his principle of Daring to Dream. He coaches, teaches mental, and spiritual healing, speaks, motivates, and lives his global mission of helping others to discover their true selves.

Now more than ever we need a guide on how to survive not only with our mental and emotional health intact, but also strengthened, full of resourcefulness and agility, ready to combat our Hidden Demons. Chaos strikes and suddenly we realize we are more fragile than we thought — more exposed, unsafe, less in control. It is easy to invoke resilience. However, resilience is in short supply for many people who cannot quite understand what has hit them, either financially or in the loss of their usual bonds and customs. We need guides on how we can survive not only with our mental and emotional wellbeing intact, but also strengthened, full of resourcefulness and agility.

How to Overcome Fear, Anxiety and Addiction in Uncertain Times

Now more than ever we need a guide on how to survive not only with our mental and emotional health intact, but also strengthened, full of resourcefulness and agility, ready to combat our Hidden Demons.

Throughout this course and its six modules, David shows that the path to rediscovering your life and purpose starts with tiny steps. It begins with getting yourself up off the floor (almost literally in his case). It continues in the days and weeks ahead as you seek to discover what your inner voices are telling you about your Hidden Demons, about your past, about social conventions, about your true talents – and whether you are really listening. More often than not, it’s two steps forward and one step back. Nothing can be achieved in a day, but everyone has a path to their true self and calling. It won’t come from social media. It won’t come from following movements and demagogues. It can come from the simplest of journeys, even imaginatively – to a college campus, to a forest for a walk, to the seaside, or to an unfamiliar city. But first of all you have to get to the starting point. That for many people is the most difficult step.

6 Life Strategies to Discover Your Superpower

Learn the Six Life Strategies that David has developed to keep the mindset, habits and perspective needed to stay centered, focused, healthy, and strong throughout this and future crises.

David’s own life has not always been easy, and he has experienced constant challenges along the way, both as a gay man and as a relapsing alcoholic. However, he transparently shares in every section of his book and course what his “Hidden Demons” were ⎯ and as you follow along, you will discover that the Hidden Demons method™ is not only about fear, addictions and bringing hope and comfort in the darkness. It is so much more; it is a flashlight we all need on our journey to awaken our true greatness.

About David Clive Price, Ph.D.

Born in South London to Welsh parents, David graduated from Cambridge University with a Ph.D. in Renaissance History, won a British Academy fellowship to lecture at Bologna University, and wrote his first books — including his first novel — when living as a farmer-translator in Tuscany. He then moved to Japan and Hong Kong to study Asian cultures while taking up his first professional position at the Economist Intelligence Unit. This was followed by five years as the chief speechwriter for Asia for the HSBC Group during the return of Hong Kong to China. In parallel with his professional career, he continued to develop a passion for the people, religions and cultures of the world, which was reflected in a series of travel books including a study of Buddhism and spiritual beliefs in Asian daily life.

His successful track record in high-level communications for global CEOs, senior leaders, and politicians, which he carried forward in his coaching and writing consultancy on leaving HSBC, gave him a special insight into the challenges of high performance and behavioral change. These insights now inform his work with people of many different backgrounds as they seek to move forward and overcome the stress, burnout, and anxiety they are facing in their personal and professional lives. Speaking English, French, German, Italian and Cantonese, and having lived and worked in numerous countries, Dr. David Clive Price’s multicultural experience informs all his executive coaching, as well as his bestselling books Bamboo Strong with Foreword by Dr.Marshall Goldsmith, and the upcoming Hidden Demons: How to Overcome Fear, Anxiety, and Addiction in Uncertain Times.

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Hello, this is Dennis Velco with OutBüro your website for LGBT professional and entrepreneurial endeavors. You are listening to this week’s episode of our new podcast again where we bring you interesting, lively, and sometimes hopefully entertaining conversations with LGBT entrepreneurs and professionals as well as community leaders spanning the globe. Thank you so much for tuning in. If you are watching this on YouTube, take a few moments and subscribe right now hit that subscribe button as well as the bell that will ensure that you are notified as soon as new episodes come available. Also, you’re able to subscribe. Follow us on in places such as Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify I Heart Radio and about 10 other podcasts so that you can listen to out your voices on the go at the gym, in your car on your way to work doing house chores line on the beaches, so much more tuned in with every episode to out your voices. And today we are very happy to have David Clive Price. He is an author, a mental health specialist, and an all-around guru on building change and leadership into your life. Thank you so much for joining us today. David. Thank you for having me. It’s a pleasure to be here Dennis. Wonderful, wonderful and you are hailing from across the pond as from the UK, correct?

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Yes. From Blighty, as they called it, during the war they called it Blighty, so old Blighty

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the United Kingdom Yes,

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wonderful land. For our viewers and listeners, what area of the UK Are you coming from?

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I’m coming from speaking from London. Oh,

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yes. Wonderful and gorgeous city. So, David, why don’t we kind of jump in to you giving us a bit of your background, which is very rich and diverse. And of course we strive for data an hour, I know you could probably speak for six or more hours with as much as going on, and you’re interesting books. But let’s give a little overview as to your background. And then we’ll lead into kind of a chronological step up from back then through your current projects.

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Sounds great, well, that’d be playing it straight in and say that I help entrepreneurs and LGBTQ professionals to overcome mental health challenges, such as fear, anxiety and addiction, so that they can face their Hidden demons and create a more fulfilled life and abundant business. So I’m the author of bamboo strong cultural intelligence secrets to succeed in the new global economy. and, more recently, the age of pluralism, global intelligence for emerging leaders. Okay, so

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just a little bit. Tell us just a little bit about the the bamboo strong. That’s an interesting title.

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Yeah, well, as the title suggests, it’s to do with, with bending in the wind, if you like, metaphorically, strong, but also resisted, strong, but flexible and agile. And that is the central thesis of the book really, which is based on my own travels and experiences around the world, and particularly in Asia Pacific, but also you In the States and Europe, in South America, with different countries and cultures and backgrounds dealing with people of difference of our differences, in other words,

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and the book

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has as its framework, what’s called the cultural intelligence or CQ model, a four part model to help you relate with, make relationships with, negotiate with, understand the differences of and create emotional intelligence for dealing with people of many backgrounds and cultures, races, generations and creeds. So the book goes on the journey through through my own life experiences by using this CPU model.

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Okay, well that certainly, and all the times but especially in today’s since times here in the United States with racial tensions and so forth. I’m sure that your book would be bamboo strong would be an excellent read for for anyone, but particularly those in whatever leadership positions you might find yourself and whether that’s leadership in an organization via an employer or even a community nonprofit sounds like a really good read, especially now in today’s time.

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Yes, we’re dealing with a great deal of tension around diversity and inclusion. We have maybe a lot of celebration of diversity, as we’ve had this month for gay pride, of course, but not so much necessarily of for inclusion. That’s both in society at large and in companies and corporations, etc. So there is a great The more education needed on the diversity and inclusion front, which this book tends to help with. And the follow up book which is called the age of pluralism, global intelligence for emerging leaders. So, those are in the back the younger generations to again with its own framework for dealing with differences personal, cultural, generational. So that is the background to my sorry, say, multi multiracial multicultural work and at the same time that the kind of qualities and capabilities are required for but working together well with people have many different backgrounds are similar to Those that we need in mental health challenges, which are also. So current and particularly now with the global pandemic, increasingly currents and increasing pandemic of mental health issues of all kinds. So,

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agility, looking within

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discovering inner resources, empathy, emotional intelligence, these are the kind of leadership issues and personal issues that that my books and my frameworks address.

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Okay, and just for audience, I can’t believe we didn’t escape. You’re also if I’m not mistaken. Psychologists

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know, I’m also qualified practitioner, as a psychologist. Now I’m a I’m a PhD. I saw the doctor

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guide Yeah, sorry, my mistake without I don’t have my glasses on to look at my notes.

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Okay, but definitely, definitely interesting topics and what is your PhD in?

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It’s in Renaissance history actually. Wow. So I took a great interest in history at college and at school indeed and then Cambridge I studied the Renaissance and actually Renaissance music and and then disappear from courts and country houses of idioms. Initially sauce. That’s what kicked off my interest and then I had a fellowship on the British Academy to go over to Italy.

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I studied the northern Italian Renaissance courts. Wow for one, two years. At

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a beautiful period, but I would not want to live in that era. Just, you know, being being obviously also a gay person assuming that I grew up in a gay person then as well. But what’s what’s interesting though, is you know, from your your PhD in history looking at that, you know, and your, your travels in and around you, you live in so many places around the world, in in Asia and Africa, us and so forth. And, you know, being able to take a look at a historical and a cultural perspective because I firmly believe that for leaders and for you as an individual to really look forward, you also have to be able to look in the past and it’s not dwell on the past, but he is acknowledge the past right? So just like if you’re wanting to make changes in your own life, changes in your behaviors, you have to be able to acknowledge the past because if you just ignore it, and you have no no reference for it, when it comes to your own personal issues, then you’re less likely to successfully overcome it because you haven’t dealt with it properly. Yes, and when it comes to a business practice, being able to fully lead and drive new products and services, you know, like new product developments, one of the other guests. Two weeks ago, we talked about how, how important it is to be able to understand for example, the adoption of technologies, new products and services, and to to understand how your new product or service might be adopted today, you know, we might, it might not take us today. 10 years to a gap, for example, as it did from black and white television to colored television. And of course now, we all have basically one sitting here. You know, whatever I grew up, we had the big black huge console with the built in huge fingers. I mean, it was a piece of furniture, right? Yeah. Yeah. And and here we are, and same, you know, with you as well, you know, back back then that television, you had one TV per household, it was a coveted item. Everyone sat around it. Well, now everyone just walks around basically TV on their phone. And and so, you know, that that but being able to look at the past and say, you know, how did cultures or how did individuals consumers or or businesses adapt to this is that is a very strong point in Understanding how you can move forward when there are some gaps. But it definitely relates to your mental. Yes. mental challenges and mental mental opportunities. Yeah, looking,

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looking into your past Yes. or looking into analyzing the stories that you tell yourself. That’s one of the lead strategies in hidden demons, which is, you know, we have, some of them are conscious stories, but many of them are unconscious stories they may lay hidden within us that we’re not entirely aware of, and they may in some curious way still dictate our behavior and perhaps our mental health challenges as well. And so being able to analyze the stories or look within yourself for the stories, I think these are big and that relates more generally on the on the widest Scale to being able to look at our history to be able to look at the history of other cultures and have other people put to putting things in context. And to have more than one perspective in mind at the same time is Yeah,

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so that, you know, I heard I heard some other people perhaps this is try to explain as I understand it, and perhaps it’s explaining exactly what you said in a slightly different way. But I’d love to hear from you if it’s if it’s this similar kind of concept. And through some of the the work that I’ve done, I’ve heard it called, they termed it as your programming, right, having a track seven green, conscious and unconscious memory as programming. And so, you know, for example, if you grew up with a parent who from an early He gave you the signals that you were not worthy you are not going to amount to anything via verbal and or just through their actions through not paying attention to you through not helping you with your schoolwork. And then well, you know, I knew you weren’t going to do well in that. So why bother? Those are approved that’s laying down programming within the brain that says, I’m not worth spending time with. I’m not good at anything. And, and so it can affect how then you see the world view and interpret and interact with the world today.

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Yeah, and of course,

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and so

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there’s ways so does your book in modern demons goes into ways to kind of rewrite those stories or rewrite those programs and you

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goes very much into how we can use those stories to move forward. And of course, for LGBTQ people, often the coming out story is the biggest story of all. And you know, all the what to say the the influx of emotions and secrecy and shame, perhaps that goes before coming out, especially to your family. And these can have reverberations throughout your life unless you’re aware of them. And of course, we can address these demons by becoming aware of them and that means looking at them. sounds simple, but it’s not so simple in reality, Ray’s story stories.

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Yeah. Well because you know, it is such a struggle that is partly due to the underlying reasoning why so many years study after study shows that some of the some of these studies I have written about some of them, I’ve just not gotten around to but they’re out there. So do Google them folks, is you know, study after study shows that LGBT you persons suffer from higher levels or more frequent levels of anxiety, depression, more a higher attempts of suicide. There’s just there’s lots of studies in and around the LGBTQ mental

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mental health. Yeah, and that

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and that I think goes a lot into you know, the rejections the bat because of religion, different religions around the world, who, you know, preach and or whatever they call it. I mean, I know I don’t misprint mistake for other religions and cultures. But you know, I grew up in a very fundamentalist right wing environment myself. To this day. My own father is extremely right wing I can’t even say the word community without him beginning his, quote scripture. So and and I know what that is what part of that is done for me and I’m not going to get into the whole story. I’ve been told I could write books about my youth and teenage years, not off centered around me but it all centered around religion and how it was used in a very negative way. And so so I really get that’s one thing why this really stuck out to me because I personally know how those stories you know, sometimes you’ll find or antidote to flee that LGBT people work, you know, x men You know, x times harder, x times more, it’s like we’re always trying to prove ourselves. So yes,

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exactly. And

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I think is trying to overcome those stories overcome those programming. But then there’s also a string of self destruction. also kind of going into those programs or stories as you call them. And it’s like, well, if I’m not worthy, why bother? Why shouldn’t I just drink myself into a stupor every night? No one cares, right? I mean, that’s what does the programming that gets put into your mind if I’m not worthy enough for my own family from my own parents love and my own father’s acceptance in my own mother’s acceptance, or my own siblings acceptance then then why should I even exist, so who cares I’ll just go out and party every night and have fun because I’m not going to live anyways. Because you know, all those negative kind of stories come in and can lead to a life and Like style of kind of nonchalant, nonchalant pneus yet, yet, what’s interesting is the dualism, I work Work, Work work, you know, I, when I say I, you know, putting this in framework of the listener is, you know, you work, work, work, work work to try to prove yourself, but then also have these destructive behaviors kind of happening simultaneously. So, if I could do a chunk about those,

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yeah, I mean, I maybe had a less less than tolerant family and mother and father. But there probably was something there that particularly for my father that was always kind of in the background, even when I came out and he more or less accepted it and my mother more or less accepted it, etc, etc. But there’s just one little example is the school play. I was playing Hamlet course as a little achiever to at school. So I had to be, you know, handwritten Could school play and as kind of honor that last night and the parents came along and I was quite pleased with myself, I thought it went well. And I went up to the balcony later to see them and expected them to say, David, that was terrific. You know, we really enjoyed it. I know how they got peak, they more or less got up and said, I think it’s time now to go to the car. And I realized that that I didn’t realize then but later on thinking about it, it’s because they thought that confirm certain tendencies. This is before I came out to be fair, you know, confirm certain tendencies. And it’s, you know, it’s, you’re always achieving a lot of people a lot of LGBTQ people continue to achieve achieve achieve throughout their lives and always have a slight sense of they’re not quite good enough, which is what I explore in the book as well. But however much you do, whatever success you have, there’s something not quite right. And I have clients in my local LGBT few Leaders Program now who do talk about this kind of underlying our knees but needing to refine that purpose. And and listening to those stories. As I said earlier, that’s one of the techniques that we use to go deeper down. And then living in the present too. That’s another big strategy that we’re always projecting. unease or dissatisfaction onto the future or will it will it? Will it realize my fears that I had when I was a child or when I was a adolescent boy, young man will the next 10 year will the next five When will something go wrong? Even when we’ve got you know everything going for us will something go wrong?

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Which is

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things that we have to deal with and come out on the other side off.

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Personally I struggled with alcoholism, depression, anxiety, and not constantly I achieved in between, you know, I was speechwriter for one for one of the world’s largest banks. I wrote several travel books about different countries around the world a show etc.

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And I you know, I then

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always rebounding to alcohol

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even though I found my life’s true love, you know, we call so you know, there’s always a sort of underlying, eventually I got through it. And now I’m a reasonably successful entrepreneur life coach, but you know, you have to go through certain phases unfortunately as a gay man or at least be aware of them as an LGBTQ person or at least be aware of them because they are there to trip you up and that’s why the book is called hidden demons how to overcome fear and anxiety and addiction to thrive in uncertain times. Okay,

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well in and this you know, for for those listening is and watching is it’s this is about dealing with your your past and helping to frame that and put perspective around it. You can’t change your past, but you can change the way you view it. That’s your choice. Okay, you can’t, you can’t change what people have said to you and done to you. However, what you can Choose is how you react and respond to that. Because you have, it’s you who control you. Right? Yeah. If someone makes you angry, No, they didn’t. You made yourself angry. You chose to take that reaction and take that response. If someone disrespected, you know, you chose to take it that way. It’s all in your own choices right here has nothing to do with the other person. They’re going on. They’re going about their lives. If you know if you happen to be like me, and even as of two Christmases ago, I mean, it was chaotic. You know, I my father was asking about me moving further south, which was to Fort Lauderdale. Oh, well, why are you moving Being down there. And you know, I’ve learned throughout the years to avoid key words that would set him into his religious tirades. And finally, but he has learned keep pressing Dennis with question and question and question and question until I hear the question or until I hear the the the trigger and then I get to go off and I can justify it and I can be my religious asshole. So, well. Do you know what that particular Christmas was? I stopped reacting. I simply put my finger is from his nose and I said stop. You stop. I’m a 15 year old man and I will not tolerate it any longer. It’s your choice. You will not you will not get the upset, but I will not tolerate it. We chose to say that we are going to respect each other. And that means if you ask me a question you have to be adult enough to leave Listen to the answer. And so that was a big step for me. Yeah. And you know, I’ve always have been the person who pushed and asked questions and questions and yeah, we’ve always as I like to say we’ve always had great pleasantry conversations pleasantries, just talking about the little niceties, gardening, housework and so forth, but when it comes to, and his job and all of that, but really not about life, you know, and, and that’s unfortunate, but you know, you can’t change other people. You have to be able to take your life and control you. Right. Sometimes you have to put boundaries on other people, because they they purposely try to poke and prod, which is what he did for years. Yeah. Kind of childish. But

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but you’re right you control you I think that’s very right. Yeah. You control you

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laterally. Yes. Yes. You You control you,

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you are not controlled by the outside forces, whatever they are external forces you control you. Absolutely.

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Yeah. And so when when you then utilize books like these, and all of them sound like incredible worthy reads is you’re then able to put those into perspective and put your own history to perspective and say, Alright, and you know, the past is the past you can’t change it. You can’t change the way you reacted and responded based on those triggers that were very ingrained that programming that was very ingrained. But what you can do is you can change the way you react, you know, it’s just like, just like stopping drink, or for pay out. I will share something have you guys here? Okay, so if you’ve even just listened to these, you know, about three years ago, I had a divorce and a 17 year relationship Well, me being me, because I’ve had a two, a NINE and a 17 year relationship. So I’ve been in relationships like 98% of mine and not always good. I would stay in them for all kinds of reasons. convenience. Just, I would stay in bad relationships. But, so just three and a half months after being out of the will, three and a half months of being on my own living on my own. What does dentists do? Next? prep basically next guy that comes along, man, within a month, we’re living together. I mean, this is as my friends like to say. That is yours, that is u haul packing. lesbians. You know, as soon as you start dating someone, you’re like, boom, boom, boom, you know, you’re picking out the chick next trying to patterns. like omg. Well, this this fella smokes cigarettes. I’ve never smoked cigarettes in my life. outside of here, there’s, you know, one or two, you know, kind of a thing now and then like once a year kind of thing. And this guy smokes, regularly, constantly, almost every day says he’s going to stop. But, you know, as we started to go out, he would, you know, pass me a cigarette, and say, Okay, and then another and then another. Then as I started to stay at his house, he began to leave two or three a day for me. Then it became five or six, then it became half a pack. Within within about three month period, I went from not smoking basically my entire life to smoke today, and it took me almost two years. And finally, one day, I just had to say, Stop. What the f are you doing? Hmm. And and to be honest, it’s turned off other guys that I was interested in. Yeah. And it’s like, if for nothing else I need to stop because of that, right. But it was that little bit of, I guess a little bit of social programming that happened in a very short time period. So when you now is

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a habit,

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yes. which create triggers. And this also when you’re a child, and when you’re a young person and you’re growing up, also the experiences that you have have chemical triggers. Yes. And those Exactly. And those become you become addicted to those chemical triggers in the brain.

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Yes, but you can and unlearn them. Yes. It’s a big thing. But that’s what the book talks about a lot. Just like fear, anxiety, depression, they are kind of addiction. They’re definitely a habit. And just like those habits can can be unlearned. They can be you can learn new habits that take that place, not immediately. Not, you know, I got, I got a box, the one out of the box, kind of a quick solution to that. Not immediately, but one step at a time. In my case, one day at a time, I was throwing myself off my bedroom, balcony at high up in Hong Kong until the airport expressway I was about to

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you know, and but somehow I came back from that thinking of my my loved one, I mean my other half

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but the habits Gone to this extent that I was that I was on the anti suicide. The habit also was taking one step back, taking two step back, thinking of Simon three steps back, getting to the sofa, holding on to the sofa clutching x, then finding the phone, then finding the Samaritan number from directory inquiries, then getting that then them talking to me. Then by eight o’clock in the morning, this was like four in the in the morning by eight o’clock in the morning, I knew I could get down in the elevator down to the lobby, and then call up a friend and then go over to a friend’s house for two days. But the steps back from those black holes in our lives are so important, and everything can be replaced with a new habit. Yes, new and new habits of sobriety. For example,

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of absence of fear of not projecting

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nervousness or anxiety onto the future, with living one day at a time, etc, etc. So, and happiness

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and this new habits taking time is is, you know getting Where’s kind of going would be the that temporary smoking thing because it’s just like I learned that that new habit over about a two month period it took about two months also for me to once I finally made the decision, it took about that same amount of time to end. And, you know, those long held ingrained beliefs. As David was saying, you know, they just don’t go away immediately because they are long held ingrained. Yeah, stories slash programs and they take a conscious effort To adjust. And so so you offer Well, a mental well being life coaching. Yes. And so do you then help your clients make these adjustments?

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Yes, that’s part of the programs Very much so. And not all LGBTQ clients but I do have a special program for LGBTQ professionals. But yeah, I help them with the these kinds of issues. It was a six, six module six parts program really to overcome your hidden demons to lead a more fulfilled and abundant life, the most satisfying with free of unease and curious unease that we LGBTQ people have until he’s, in my case well into my second adulthood or boyhood, or whatever I’m in at the moment. Right?

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Well, and you know, it’s no disrespect to, you know, any mental health care practitioner, you know, out out there. But you know, when it comes to authenticity, knowing that someone has gone through something in my personal opinion, makes them more relatable

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and more

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you know, again, no, no disrespect and maybe maybe someone in the comments will say, No, that’s absolutely not right. You don’t have to have been a you know, addicted to drugs or alcohol in order to be effective counselor. No, no, I you know, I guess not. But I had several people in my my my life who have gone through rehabilitation from both. And the the over arching or the commonality in the several people that I know. They, again, no please don’t hate on me whatever and comments and all of that, but there, they had a better success. And they opened up more when they knew that the that their counselor had gone through something that they like, was it always the exact same thing? You know, like one was addicted to methamphetamines, unfortunately, which is very rampant in the LGBT community, especially the gaming community. And but the person his counselor was an a, you know, a recovered alcoholic, that made him just feel more like Oh, you’ve you’ve gone through something you’ve overcome something so therefore you get me. And it was, maybe it was just from this one person that a friend has done for you. She was a total like Christine person hadn’t, you know, perfect life perfect. Everything had hadn’t had anything. And, and I don’t know if maybe she conveyed to too much of that to my friend, but it was just they were not he was not opening up to her. And I think it’s because he felt like she was just had couldn’t relate, you know, like clinically, you know, one thing is to be clinically textbook. The other thing is to have life experiences and wisdom. Does that make sense? And I’m open to people having comments and so forth. If you do, folks, just whatever platform you’re on, put comments down below what your thoughts are on that. What are your thoughts on that game?

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Well, I think as a coach in general, as a life coach Pat’s particular You need to trust you need to build that relationship of trust. And sometimes it’s more difficult if you’re only working together on a high powered professional level or as the achieving coach and the you know yet to achieve. Coaching is something to do with trust and particularly in these areas of mental health. But that is really, really important. relatable. I think a lot of coaches try to be relatable and the coaching relationship is based on on being relatable and integrity. But sometimes it’s the trust factor is missing the full trust and being, as you say, able to to relate to someone who been there and done that in many ways and has a lot of experiences to tell. which gives me You know, I’m, I’m privileged to do this work and but, and honored to, to help people because I’ve also been incredibly lucky to have so many experiences all over the world to have a rich and diverse background, I’m very lucky if I’m able to say that now beforehand, if when I was drinking, I probably there was another one, or I did not flatter my back in my Tokyo flat for the 12th time, you know, Night after night, waking up at six in the morning in your own body, etc. You know, and and that’s after writing a couple of books, and that’s after being well respected. I wrote my first novel setting in New York again, otherwise it happens called Alphabet City. I’ve had a little bit of success that the gay writer on white wrote a great review of it and endorsed it, etc. But then I went back to Italy and then things began to fall to pieces again and then I’m back on the old vino from I had a little farm in Italy. After I finished my fellowship together my first partner we bought a little farm, but two or three, four years there, I wrote my first books and and was a wine and olive farmer which I loved. But also titling the wine. You know, as a wind farmer, you’re allowed to triple A wine at five in the morning, right with a garlic bread and tomato. So while you’re doing your vines, so yeah,