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Four Steps That Can Change Your Life

Every single day that you are fortunate enough to wake up, you are faced immediately with a question: how are you going to face the day?  You have to make a choice.  Here are 4 steps that will ground you every morning so that your day is strong, confident, and productive.

Step 1. Be the reason

Accept that there will be decisions during the day that need to be made.  Accept that there will be disappointments and setbacks.  From long red lights to major health setbacks – life is full of them.  But life is also full of victories, both small and large.  Embrace the mindset that tells you that each day is loaded with good and bad, the beautiful and the ugly, and the positive and negative.

Step 2.  Heart Connection

Make sure that your heart and your mind are connected and on the same page. You have the ability to succeed but if your mind isn’t on the same page as your heart, you are already in conflict.  When your mind and heart are in tune you set yourself up for success.  Take a quick moment and breathe, listen to your heart, and pay attention to the rhythm in your head and then connect the two as one.

Step 3. Accountability

Don’t do it alone. During the day as you face both challenges and successes, you must have someone who is willing to stop running, turn around, reach down and pick you up.

Step 4. Finally

Stop whining. Don’t start your day with negative statements.  The moment you rise start telling yourself positive statements, looking forward through the day at things that will be good from a simple great cup of coffee, to the refreshing ice water in your cup, to spending time with loved ones at the close of the day.  Gather those positive thoughts and use them to fuel you through the rough spots. Don’t focus on what might be – focus on what you know WILL be and if negative things happen, you are prepared for them.  They won’t catch you off guard and more importantly, you’ll set yourself up to face them head-on and win.

So say to the day – bring me your best or bring me your worst – I’m ready.  Bring it.

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Bruce Knotts: Unitarian Universalist An LGBTQ Welcoming Faith

In this episode of OutBüro Voices featuring LGBTQ professionals, entrepreneurs, and community leaders from around the world, host Dennis Velco chats with Bruce Knotts, Director of the Unitarian Universalist Office at the United Nations.

In this chat with Bruce Knotts, we discuss what is Unitarian Universalist and each of our own paths to it as a welcoming faith that is welcoming and inclusive of #LGBTQ members. I would take that a step further, the Unitarian Universalist are champions of #LGBT people, not only with the congregations but for the dignity, rights, and equality of #gay, #lesbian, #bisexual, #transgender, #queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, pansexual, and heteroflexible people around the world. UUs are very social-justice-oriented such as the long-running #LoveIsLove campaign.

Learn more about Unitarian Universalist and locate a local church near you:

Here is their LGBTQ page:

The UU faith is really not an individual faith but rather a celebration, exploration, respect, and openness to all world faiths and nonfaiths. What does that mean? No single world faith dominates. Each service may focus on teaching from any of the world’s faiths and often will explore a topic reflecting its views from many faiths in one service. There is ZERO religious dogma acknowledging the divine in all, there is no one right answer, each person is welcome to their own personal journey and truth. Services may include poetry readings, Pop music, and more. So in Unitarian Universalism, you can be your full authentic self while also practicing your spirituality on your own path. You are welcome.

So in Unitarian Universalism, you can be your full authentic self while also practicing your spirituality on your own path.  You are welcome. Unitarian Universalism includes learning about and welcoming all world faiths and nonfaiths including but not limited to: Atheism, Agnostic, Bahá’í Faith, Buddhism, Caodaism, Cheondoism, Christianity, Confucianism, Hinduism, Humanism, Hòa Hảo, Islam, Jainism, Judaism, Muslim, Nature-based spirituality, Old world spirituality, Paganism, Shinto, Sikhism, Spiritism, Taoism, and Tenriism.

All are welcome and it is a great spiritual home for families where partners may have different spiritual focuses such as one Buddhist and the other Agnostic or Christian. It can be a wonderful spiritual home for those that would like to connect or reconnect with their spiritual center in a welcoming open community free from judgment or dogma. In the next video/podcast we’ll continue this discussion and learn how under Bruce Knotts’ leadership through the UUA office at the United Nations he has been instrumental at the UN level for LGBTQ equality and rights around the globe.

Many United States founding fathers were Unitarian Universalists including several US Presidents.…

Here are a few:

  • John Adams (1735–1826) – Second President of the United States.
  • John Quincy Adams (1767–1848) – Sixth President of the United States. Co-founder, All Souls Church, Unitarian (Washington, D.C.)
  • Roger Nash Baldwin (1884–1981) – Founder of American Civil Liberties Union
  • Susan B. Anthony (1820–1906) – Quaker Madelyn Dunham (1922–2008) – Grandmother of U.S. President Barack Obama
  • Stanley Armour Dunham (1918–1992) – Grandfather of Barack Obama Stanley Ann Dunham (1942–1995) –
  • Mother of Barack Obama Millard Fillmore (1800–1874) – Thirteenth President of the United States
  • Thomas Jefferson (1743–1826) – third president of the U.S., Unitarian
  • Tomáš Garrigue Masaryk (1850–1937) – first President of Czechoslovakia
  • Samuel Freeman Miller (1816–1890) – United States Supreme Court Justice from 1862 to 1890
  • Joseph Story (1779–1845) – United States Supreme Court Justice from 1811 to 1845.
  • William Howard Taft (1857–1930) – President of the United States (1909–1913)

To connect with Bruce find him on OutBüro here.

Join me and Bruce on OutBüro, the LGBTQ professional and entrepreneur online community network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, allies and our employers who support LGBTQ welcoming workplace equality focused benefits, policies, and business practices.

Would you like to be featured like this? Contact the host Dennis Velco.